Just like everyone else, I’m always doing the work to not equate my body with anything more than a modicum of self-worth, but it’s a struggle.
When our bodies go through the inevitable changes of life (motherhood, in particular, for me), we can struggle to accept the new version of us we see in the mirror.
When I interviewed celebrity stylist Melanie Pace about finding your style, we dove into this topic big time, and she had this tip, which I love: Dress for the body you’re in now, not the one you used to be.
Melanie suggested taking a quick visual survey of what’s in your closet, and either donating or setting aside items (as in, taking them out of your daily field of vision) that no longer fit you, or no longer make you feel your best.
I interviewed her for our 5 Questions this week, and not only am I inspired by how she effortlessly mixes colors and patterns, but she also has an amazing equation, of sorts, for how to find your style: Consider budget, personality and functionality.
It’s as close to an actual formula I’ve ever seen for finding your style, and you should definitely read her explanation of it here. But the simple version is this: We need our wardrobes to work for us, and if you consider the things you need, as well as the things you want, you can land on your sweet spot.
And just one more push to check out her incredible article, I’ll leave you with her perspective on style that I know I’ll come back to time and time again:
Love love love this tip from Melanie for all of us who feel overwhelmed when walking into a store.
She suggests not walking into a store and looking up to take it all in, but rather immediately heading toward the right or left, and then snaking your way through the racks, or doing a figure 8.
Genius, right?! How many times have I walked into, then immediately out of, a store, simply because it felt like too much to take in at once? She also says to take the time to touch items as you go, pulling them back from the rack and looking at the ones that interest you, one at a time.
Don’t be afraid to use the free personal shopping services that many stores offer.
If you have Salesperson Anxiety, she suggests trying this line on someone who’s asking if s/he can help you: “You say nicely. I’m good. I’m really trying to figure some things out.”
When it. comes to color, trust your intuition. “When you question, ‘Does this color look good on me?’ that’s usually you answering your own question. Don’t wear that color.”
It’s been an amazing week learning from some of the best! I sincerely hope you enjoyed this week’s topic on WGT. As always, I’d love to hear from you on this topic or anything else. Follow me on Instagram and DM me!